When I found out I was pregnant, one of the first things people did was start giving parenting advice. The other thing people did was tell me how many people are going to give me parenting advice. I learned to take it all with a grain of salt. But sooner or later, the mom-shaming (and parent-shaming) really comes out with its teeth bared.
Now, any of you country music fans know that Jason and Brittany Aldean welcomed their beautiful son, Memphis, into the world on December 2nd of this past year. Let’s be honest, we’ve all been oohing and ahhing over how adorable he is (I mean, look at that head of hair)!
But today, Brittany posted this picture on Instagram, and it really made me think.
In case you can’t read it, it’s basically a post directed at people who have been shaming her for leaving her 2 month old son to go on vacation with her husband (and a couple fellow parent friends). While this is a typical case of unsolicited parenting advice, it’s still important to talk about this.
This is something I’ve struggled with myself, even though my son is almost a year and a half, and we haven’t gone anywhere further than a couple hours away. Whether it be internal guilt, or guilt brought on by others, I think it’s important to talk about the fact that it’s OKAY to take some time for yourself without your child or children. Parents go through a LOT of changes in that first couple months of having a child, and sometimes taking that time can be exactly what you need. I think people forget how important it can also be to nurture your relationship after you become parents.
It seems that many people feel that, once you become a mom/parent, that is your sole identity. Sure, we put our kids needs first and foremost, but we also need to remember to take care of ourselves!
To all the parents out there – YOU DO YOU. Do whatever it is that you need to be the best YOU that you can be. If that means relaxing on a sunny beach somewhere, do it!
What are your thoughts on kidless vacations?